Why I Will Never Choose a Religious Partner

I know this may sound harsh to some, but I have to be honest: I will never choose a religious partner. And here’s why.

Religion, for me, has always felt like a cage. It demands obedience, submission, and blind faith. It thrives on fear — fear of sin, fear of punishment, fear of being “wrong.” I’ve seen how it divides people, how it creates shame, and how it silences voices, especially women and anyone who dares to live differently.

Love, for me, must be built on freedom. I need a partner who can question, think, and explore without chains. I don’t want to explain why I don’t follow a ritual or justify why I believe in freedom of thought. I don’t want someone who measures me by rules written centuries ago.

And let me be very clear: I don’t want to be preached at every single day. I’ve been there, done that. No more. If you want to preach, go be a priest. Why drag that into a family, where love, respect, and freedom should live? Just ask yourself: Do you want to be happy, or do you want to be a preacher?

I saw the damage religion can cause. I’ve seen people judged, oppressed, and broken by its grip. I’ve seen love destroyed because someone was told it didn’t “fit” their faith. That’s not the life I want.

When I choose a partner, I choose curiosity over dogma, freedom over rules, love over judgment. I want someone who sees the world as vast, mysterious, and worth questioning. Someone who values kindness, art, freedom, and truth more than doctrine.

I don’t need a religion to tell me how to love. I don’t need a book or a priest to decide what’s right for me. I want a partner who walks beside me, not someone chained to beliefs that deny who I am.

Let’s be clear though — I have friends with different beliefs: Muslim, Hindu, Christian, Jewish, Buddhist… and friends who follow Pagan traditions, Wicca, ancient spiritual paths, and many friends who don’t follow any belief system at all. To me, it doesn’t matter what you believe or don’t believe — if your heart is kind and your intentions are pure, you are welcome in my life. I can be friends with people of different beliefs.

But no, I will never choose a religious partner.
Because my love is freedom. My love is art. My love is truth.
And my love will never live in a cage.

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